"The trait that causes me the most difficulty in performing my job is the ability to cope well with organizational politics. I have never been good at this one. I believe that organizational politics can often be traced back to ego issues.
"In the company I work for, there are many strong willed, intelligent males. Prior to my promotion, most of the female supervisors seemed very mousy. I have rarely seen them fight for their ideas or campaign for other females' ideas. I don't believe it's intentional; it's just a pattern of behavior that has been quietly instilled in them.
"I, however, am the aggressive advocate for good ideas, no matter who came up with them. I have a very strong personality and don't back down when I believe in my position on an issue. As you can imagine, this has created hardships for me and has made me wildly unpopular with some members of management. Mainly because I believe that respect should be commanded and not demanded. On the flip side of that, many of the associates appreciate my candor and have told management that it's actually why they like me. I am listing this as an area for improvement because I am painfully aware that a leadership skill is not only about managing down, but also about managing up.
"Over the past several months I have had ample time to decide and implement changes in my behavior with regard to organizational politics. I am working on being a more effective listener. Rather than jumping to conclusions, I let management finish their thoughts before I discuss mine. I also give myself a 3 second reaction time. If I feel that I may over-react, I wait 3 seconds before responding. This allows me to filter my responses allowing the member of management to feel heard and respected.
"I have also begun to create relationships outside the day to day business. I ask them about their day and their families and offer compliments if they are appropriate. This allows me to have another facet to the relationship.
"The final thing that I have tried (and am working on daily) is to try to remember that the members of management were also once non-management people. At one time, they did my job or one similar to it. They did earn their stripes and deserve to be respected."
Thanks very much for the insights Anonymous. Good points for us to consider. Especially the last one.
About me: Dan Pelley is an educator specializing in management training and development programs for supervisors and other first-line managers in Connecticut (CT), Massachusetts (MA) and Rhode Island (RI). The issue recited above came from a participant in one of his supervisory management development programs.
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